I feel your pain, i feel so much like you do, and im sure all who are on here do too.
The pain is like no other. cryying all the time and pining for them to be with us.
I lost my husband of 31 years only in September. very suddenly after a tragic accident, i cry every sungle day and miss him terribly 
Like you. i will not be celebrating Christmas no cards or Christmas tree up.
ive nothing to celebrate without him.
sending love to you and everyone on here furung this horrendous rollercoster 
xxx
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@Mackay13 Thank you for reading my post. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband in September too so I feel for you and fully understand what you are going through.
Sending you love and hugs. xx
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@Jan17 Thank you for reading my post and for the kind words. It gives me hope for seeing light at the end of the tunnel. Sending you love and hugs. xx
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There isnāt any more to say,your post is just so spot on and sums my life up perfectly. Thinking of you, Mike. x
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@miker Thank you for reading my post. Itās horrible this life we have at the moment. Thinking of you too. Sending you love and hugs. xx
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@Scarl34 Morning, how are you doing, we are nearly done with the Christmas madness, keep strong, thinking of you, lots of love x
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As you know, i lost my Tony in September too. The pain seems worse the longer time passes. I cry a lot every day and try to keep busy but no heart in tidying house or shopping for food. I did everything for both of us, not just for me. Cant see the point in anything nowadays. Miss Tony so much and the pain is all consuming at
times. Love and hugs to you, we all feel our loss dreadfully. Take care xx
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@Debbiea Thank you for reading my post. I fully understand and feel for you. It is very hard to motivate yourself to do anything. The loss is still very raw and recent. Itās horrible. Hope you and all of us here will find some relief soon. Sending you love and hugs xx
Morning all
I too lost the light of my life for the past 42 years suddenly in September. I echo everything that has been said and that weāre all experiencing. Christmas without him just doesnāt seem real and like many of you there are no decorations or cards. Yesterday I had 2 cards addressed to both of us. Even though my husband fell mildly ill with COVID on Christmas Eve last year and it was therefore a very quiet and isolated Christmas, it was still special because we were sat together lovely and cosy in our nest. I feel for each and everyone of you and send my love and best wishes xx
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@Mist2 I also lost my husband in September and some days it feels years ago and others like it was yesterday, sending love and best wishes that you manage to get through Christmas as best you can, itās a very hard journey isnāt it x
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Hi @StarGate,
There is nothing I would add to what you have said. It is utterly ghastly. The only comfort I can offer is that you are not alone in feeling like this and that I, and I believe the other folk here, are thinking of you and each other with compassion, support and understanding.
I hope you manage to find a little calmer space today. x
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hi @Kathy6 awful iv really hit a massive low and just struggling to even get through the days right now. i just feel sick and in pain constantlyā¦
how are you? sending you so much love xxx
You too @Kathy6
I could never have imagined how hard this would be. The prospect of years ahead of being alone, never hearing his voice, his laugh is too much to bear, but itās what Iām going to have to live with. Itās a real mountain to climb for all of us . Xx
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@JerryH Thank you Jerry. I managed to distract myself for a while by cleaning the ensuite. Donāt know what this evening will be like but thatās the same for everyone - not knowing when the next wave will hit.
Best wishes and love. Joyce xx
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@ Mist2. Your comments echo my thoughts so well.
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@Mist2 . Itās painful isnāt it, I could never have imagined how hard grief is. Itās so helpful to read other posts, sad as they are, we are all grieving and itās devastating and heartbreaking. Take care x
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@Kathy6 and @Mist2 @StarGate I lost my love in September too. What an awful month it was, and what awful months they continue to be. How we keep going I donāt know.
So sad today.
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@Paddy53 You are right - donāt know how we keep going. Just hoping that the pain will start easing and we get some relief (donāt know when). One step at a time. Sending you love and hugs. x
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I am so sorry you are going through this terrible & traumatic time. I can truly identify with every word you said, sentence by sentence and pray that you will find the strength to keep going and that it will get better one day for us all.
Itās been almost 8 months for me and I still feel deeply sad, terribly lonely and empty - some days are harder than others. I have been existing each day and surviving so far by holding in my heart these beautiful memories that we shared during our 37 blissfully happy years and it does help ease the pain I must say!
Living with these memories seems to be the one thing that keeps us strong during these difficult times.
Sending best wishes & big hugs to everyone x
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Itās been a sad day for me today too, hoping itās a bit better tomorrow x