Hi everyone, can we draw a line under discussing the splitting of the thread now? Otherwise it will just continue to be off-topic from the original post. If you want to raise a question about the decision to split the thread with me, you can email me at online.community@sueryder.org. Or, if there is something more general you’d like to discuss with other users, you can always start a new conversation as usual.
Two reasons I think for conversations changing direction, particularly if we restricted to one sentence. By requesting that you will get a negative or positive statement and that will naturally result in members expanding with their personal experience.
The other is what Kate mentioned. The way we are invited to read post on the site, it pulls up old conversations and not the opening intro, so the reader has to scroll through and will find something in the conversation that resonates with them and then thread is revived.
There is nothing wrong with that, there is good reason though to split (sounds harsh) if it’s clear that there is real value in it becoming a topic all on its own.
Either way, its really good when you chat…some great conversations evolve.
Much love 
Sandra
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My sentiments exactly Sandra, I enjoy the chats and can even smile or laugh at some comments. Some very valid points are mentioned and I for one find them very helpful and food for thought.
Take care all
Pat xxx
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My Mum gave up so much so me and my 4 sisters could have the best childhood, so I owe it to her to live my life to the fullest 
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Look to nature and the living world, I mean look at it properly and feel it’s energy
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This is a reply so exempt from ‘one sentence’. I can relate to that so much as my love for nature has grown as I try to make sense of my new life. I am in a walking group, bit restricted at the moment as I have a painful foot…awaiting an op 
. I appreciate just how much beauty there is around me, I make myself open to meeting people but more than content to speaking to no one and just have my thoughts. This has brought peace into my life. Feel I still have a lot to learn in this new life
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SanW and Ashtree’s, we should start our own club, I am with you both 100%. The sounds and sights of nature are so therapeutic, It gives me a reason for being alive. I have been a Rambler member for years as was Brian but now quite happy walking on my own with my thoughts and the company of my dogs. It has saved me on many occasions. xxx
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Hi rainbow
Not ignoring you.
Lost the last thread! Hope you doing ok. Love hugs pam2
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I believe i deserve to suffer for not being able to help my son my punishment is living without him.
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Realistically is there anything at all you could have done to help your beloved son that you didn’t do ?
You obviously loved him dearly and it sounds as if you would have done anything in your power for him. Sadme.
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I brought him home to die i cant put into words the feeling helpless to do anything and there are other things as well that left me feeling like this.
You took him home which is so precious.
Have you talked to a counsellor at all about how you feel ? It may or may not help you.
I’m sure I could have saved my husband if he’d told me something was wrong but he never said a word until it was too late and it tortures me now.
Guilt and blame are all part of grief but so very hard to live with. Sadme
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Hi Shelia its unbelievable how many times ive questioned the decision to bring him home he was only 7 months. Me and my wife didn’t want him to spend his last days in hospital he spent most of his life in there. Ive struggled so much since he went i just cant move on ive got other issues going on as well but in time maybe things will change.
So that I can see my grandchildren grow up, enjoy their comapny and create happy memories for them.
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I’m punishing myself for not doing more to help my 27 year old son but In reality I couldn’t so anymore . It’s what we do when grieving 
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Could I just ask that we check the recent conversation even if the topic seems appropriate before we post replies 
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Don’t understand how this works
My son died At 27 and this site is of NO help
Paul, the group is very supportive but the way it’s laid out now causes confusion at times. I hope that you can stick with us, the format of site was changed in Nov last year and you’re not on your own in respect of navigating it.
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