Oh Norma that is awful. As if you haven’t got enough to cope with right now.
Am thinking of you, sending you a hug x
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keep fighting Fiona we are all in the same sinking boat, its awful somedays and worse than awful most days, don’t know what a good day is anymore and the nights well that’s a scary time
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Dear Norma
This is awful. Did your partner have an accountant? If so contact them and get them to sort it out. I would make a formal complaint by email, that way you have a record.
I hope all this is sorted soon for you.
Take care, Helen x
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Thank you so much Spike, it’s not a great place to be. Like everyone here, I find weekends just so bad, the sadness overwhelms me as we were always together, excited about what we’d do, making plans for the future. What bloody future!
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Please don’t feel like that, grief doesn’t have a timeline or a point where everything is ok again. I’m just over six months following my partner’s death. I’m still devastated, I actually feel worse than two months ago. Some clueless individuals seem to think you just get over it around the six months mark. Obviously they’ve never lost a partner. Process your grief in your own way, you don’t have to apologise for anything. Take care.
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No he didn’t have an accountant, his sister has only just been appointed executor with a solicitor acting for her as she lives in Cyprus. It’s entirely the solicitor’s fault for not dealing with it earlier but it’s something I don’t need as everything overwhelms me just now.
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I can understand why you feel overwhelmed by it . As I have been overwhelmed sorting my husband finances out . And I have had my son doing a lot of for me . If there is a telephone number on the letter , either you or somebody else should ring them . Tell them what has happened.
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Hi Peg, I hope you have a peaceful night. I think weekends are the worst to get through, the depressing thoughts seem to creep in whatever you do to keep occupied.
Wishing you all the best
Tom 
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There is no timeline, weekends are the worst for most of us I think. I sat here this afternoon and remembered we would normally be out somewhere together, it’s an awful journey we are on, try to stay strong, I know it’s hard though. Am sending hugs to you, feel for you so much, I’m only 3 months in and end up a mess on most days.
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I understand Norma. I’m so sorry this is happening. I’ve only just managed to sort our utility company (which I know isn’t the same) but it took a formal complaint before they actually did something.
Everything is a battle, just getting through the days is enough x
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Weekends are definitely the worst, they are so hard to get through. We all used to be so busy with our loved ones at the weekend. Hope you have a peaceful night 
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Sadly there’s no timeline to grief, some people feel better after just a couple of months, then it comes back again. Some people never feel any better, I’ve just passed 26months somedays are quite good, some aren’t so good and I still get days where all I really want to do is curl up in a little ball and the world to go away. Nobody’s grief follows exactly the same path, we all had different relationships with our partners so the path of our grief is all different. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you and all of us.
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Dear Peg
Wilson9 put a video on here somewhere explaining grief and physical pain and the chemicals our brain produces while we grieve. I think I feel better knowing why I feel like I do and that I’m not going mad.
We have to hope that in time things will calm, we’ll never forget but hopefully the pain will ease.
Getting enough sleep certainly helps, sleep well x
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Found it. The physical effects of grief
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Good Night to you all
Hope you have a peaceful night , and a better day tomorrow.
s to you all
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Mitzi1
Those words are so true, thats exactly how i feel.Our bed is like my life now, sad ,lonely and empty without my dear wife to be beside me.Take care
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Thank you so much Tom, I appreciate it x
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Thank you Lj.g, I appreciate your lovely words
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Many thanks Sherbet x
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Thank you Helen, I hope this passes soon x
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